Hopefully A Long Running Series
Post by Hans van der Kolk
Debra, the love of my life, died on May 8th. 2023
Her bucket list was almost empty. But she still wanted to write a book.
“Dying with Debra” is that book.
I am not much of a writer; I am more visual and have an absolutely wonderful 16-year-long movie playing in my head.
I miss her,
Hans
Hans and family – Jim and I are so saddened by Deb’s passing. We’re fortunate to live in a house Deb helped us to find. It is a tribute to her. If there is to be a memorial please let us know. We wish you peace and love at this difficult time.
Love,
Donna and Jim
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Hans and family–Jim and I are blessed to live in the house Deb helped us to find in St. Pete. We so enjoyed spending
time with her and in catering the lovely parties at your house over the years. My heart is so heavy and sad. I was praying she’d make it through, as we all were. My deepest prayers for peace to you and the family. Please let us know if you plan on a memorial. With love, Donna and Jim
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Dear Hans and family,
There are many heavy hearts that loved Deb, followed her long journey and prayed for her daily. I personally read all of her posts “Dying with Debra” and was amazed at her strength, wit, courage and incredible writing skills. I will cherish her writings and hope to purchase her book someday.
Hans, I am so sorry for your loss. My sincerest condolences to you and your family. ❤️🙏❤️
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When I heard, I found myself unable to breathe. I cannot, nor anyone could, grasp the unfathomable grief you must be swimming in. I tell people her blog was the Long Goodbye, but in Debra style it was filled with teachings, poetry, humor and above all Love. Thank you for sharing her with the rest of us. She was so special in intellect, in artistry, in curiosity and always with a sexy twist. She was my partner in crime at a very pivotal point of college yet we lost contact during our time traversing marriage and births. Thank you and my heartfelt love to you, Elaine Eubank ❤️
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Hans,
I am sorry to say I haven’t really been a part of Debbie’s life since high school. We obviously didn’t stay in touch, but because of this journal, I feel that I got to know her again. I am so grateful to have had that chance. I loved that wild, crazy 16 year-old, and I love the intelligent, articulate, passionate woman she grew to be.
Your final words for her are like poetry. I think she would’ve loved your tribute to her.
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Love & hugs to you. Can’t imagine what you are going through. Sending you strength, peace & love.
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My heart grieves for you Hans, and for Debra, and for her kids. I also grieve the loss of this champion for cats and dogs. Debra’s impact for good cannot be overestimated. She lived fully. She lived to serve. She graced my life and many many others. My tears are of grief for her too short life.
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Hans, I am so sorry to hear about Debra’s passing. The world feels smaller without her. We will all miss the joy she shared with all of us every day of her life. I remember when she met you and how tickled she was to have you in her life. I will always treasure the time we had together. With Love Karla
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